$80 per group session and $175 for individual sessions as needed (see below). A sliding scale possible when there is financial need.
Each group member must be in individual therapy concurrently with being in the group, whether with the group therapist or another therapist. Groups often bring up issues that are best dealt with privately and therefore it is essential that each member have a safe place of his own to talk about his reactions. Before entering the group, each man meets at least three times with the therapist. This is so members have a chance to learn about the group and the therapist and the therapist can be sure there is a good “fit” between the new member and the ongoing group. In addition, men in individual therapy with another therapist meet once every three months with Dr. Gartner to process their group experience.
These are long term groups that have been running for a number of years with a slow turnover in group membership. Groups are often include both straight and gay men as well as both men who are partnered/married and single. Each man shares with the others a common experience (whether as a child or as an adult) of having been sexually abused, exploited, or violated by someone older or more powerful. The abuse may have been overt or covert; chronic or a single time; by a stranger, someone known to him, or a family member; and by a male or female abuser. The man may have recognized the abuse for what it was, or not; may have enjoyed some aspects of the experience, or not; may have been frightened or physically hurt, or not; and may have disclosed what happened at the time, or not. The group focuses on both the immediate and longterm aftereffects of the abuse experience, including many issues that may not seem obviously related to the abuse, including addictions and compulsions; shame, depression, and anxiety; relationship problems with partners, bosses, or others; anger management issues; anxiety around other men; sexual dysfunctions including lack of interest, erectile problems, compulsive sexuality or watching of pornography; and others. The groups often become warm, trusting environments where men can talk about personal issues of all kinds that they may never have discussed with anyone before.
Prospective group members are invited to look at my web site (www.richardgartner.com) or if they wish to read my books — Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life after Boyhood Sexual Abuse and Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men.
Northern NY, Hudson Valley Region and Mohawk valley area
A member of the group conducts an interview in advance of an invitation to the group. The goal of this interview is to provide an overview of how the group operates and to determine if the individual is at a place in their recovery for this peer led group. All members of this group must be in individual therapy for recovery and preferably have attended a Male Survivor Weekend of Recovery.
Need to phone for a basic screening in order to register. Need to be able to be appropriate in a group setting, safe for other participants, and understand what the program is designed to offer
This is a low-key, no-pressure educational workshop designed to provide information and support to men who have experienced sexual violence, either as children or as adults. There is never any pressure to disclose information, answer questions, or to participate in any way which feels uncomfortable to the attendee. If a participant feels that further assistance is needed after the workshop is over, an appointment to meet with an crime victims advocate individually can be made.
Sponsored by Ulster County Crime Victims Assistance Program
We require potential participants to speak with Deb Foley before coming to the first group. This can be in-person or over the phone. Because the group is so short, we do ask that participants try to attend as many sessions as possible. Participants are not required to be in therapy. We do ask that participants be sober during group sessions. Also, we emphasize that this a peer support group, not a therapy group.
We do a combination of education, activities, and general discussion. We start each group with a check-in and end with a wrap up so that it is a contained setting. During the session the facilitators will provide information and usually initiate an appropriate activity, but that might be set aside if there is an urgent topic affecting a group member which needs to be discussed. Discussion is fairly free-flow, and participants are encouraged to speak directly to each other, rather than through the facilitators. Participation in activities and discussion is voluntary. Participants are allowed to disclose details of the crimes, provided they are not triggering other participants by doing so. However, no-one is ever required to disclose anything if they do not wish to.
Ulster County Crime Victims Assistance Program
We also will be maintaining an on-going waiting list for future groups if someone isn’t able to come to this group.
My fee is $75 per session, although I maintain a sliding scale for those in need.
Participants should concurrently be engaged in individual therapy or have had long-term therapy in the past. Members are requested to commit to 10 sessions. I would like to meet with interested men twice before joining the group, and then individually every three months to process feelings about the group experience.
My first responsibility is to keep the group safe, so that members are empowered to be open, vulnerable, and curious. This group will offer support, understanding, and therapeutic exploration of the impact of sexual abuse on the lives of survivors, with the goals of healing from the abuse and making lives better. Sexual abuse also encroaches on the survivor’s ability to be engaged with others. This group experience, added to in-depth individual treatment, offers an opportunity for support, understanding, bonding, and forming healthier and safer relationships.
Initial interview required, prefer concurrent individual therapy but not essential, ask for 6 month commitment
Group Description: This group is for men who have been in individual therapy focusing on childhood abuse for at least two years. The goal of the group is to explore ways in which survival skills developed as children are creating hindrances to accomplishing adult goals. The group is intensely interactive. The emphasis is on relationships within the group which mirror inter-relationship problems experienced by members in their personal lives. Each member sets an individual goal based on his current issues. As the facilitator, my role is to keep the discussion on track, provide insight based on my clinical experience and keep the room safe by helping members to express feelings and resolve conflicts.
I am a psychotherapist specializing in individual and group treatment for men who were sexually abused as children. Currently, in addition to my private practice, I provide clinical supervision for staff at the Crime Victims Treatment Center of St. Lukeâ€™s-Roosevelt Hospital in New York City, where I pioneered our treatment program for male survivors of sexual abuse. As a trauma specialist, I have provided individual and group treatment to over a thousand survivors of sexual abuse and assault.
Group interview required. All members must be in individual therapy.
These groups are designed to provide a supportive space for men who have been sexually abused as children to explore the ways in which this trauma has affected their self-worth, sense of safety, sexuality and relationships with others.