OK, so on the main board Don-NY started a thread about what we know are lies, and I think it's a great thread but when I was about to post, I decided maybe I'd post my list here, instead, since a lot of the "truths" that I know are bullshit now have to do specifically with my sexuality. Plus, I'm tired of logging on and seeing that the little Gay Survivors lightbulb is never lit up since we never post in here.

So here's a list of things that I used to think were true but I now know are lies (you should read the original "All Lies" thread in the Male Survivors section, too, if you haven't already, since it's good).

This is a lie:
I wanted it because I'm gay.

This is a lie:
If I ever got any pleasure from it, that means it wasn't abuse.

This is a lie:
Being gay is just as sick as being an abuser.

This is a lie:
If you're gay you will automatically be an abuser.

This is a lie:
I have to sleep with every guy who wants me because that's what gay men do.

This is a lie:
Numbing yourself with drugs is better than facing the pain and healing.

This is a lie:
Nobody will ever love me because I'm a sick little pervert.

This is a lie:
It was my fault.

This is a lie:
Wanting to sleep with another man is the same thing as wanting to recreate the abuse, or proof that I liked it.

This is a lie:
There is something wrong with me.

OK, so I could go on for a long time, but that's my partial list for now.

--Lucas