It happened twice. The first time was before I even knew about my CSA, but when I was suffering from depression. She told me that she couldn't stand the way I was acting and that I needed to get help or she was gone.
The second time was more recently (post CSA memories), and we decided that a break would be good for both of us. We were right. We're still separated, and at this point we're not sure if we're going to get back together, but we are both thinking clearly about things for the first time. Either way it ends up, we agree that separating has been for the best, even though it hurts like hell.
When you go up to the bell, ring it! Or don't go up to the bell.
- Mel Brooks