Just curious, do any wives and significant others feel that have successful intimate relationships with SA survivors, mutually meeting needs on all three levels (physical, emotional and psychological)? Do any survivors feel that they have successful intimate relationships with their partners? Even though my husband has confronted his SA and is trying to overcome it, I can't help but see how quickly he is triggered into withdrawl. We had an upsetting incident last night that led to withdrawl. Even though he can understand this on an intellectual level, once he is triggered that's it. I can say we made some improvement in the way we handled it as we were able to talk for about an hour after the incident and he did realize that he was triggered and subsequently withdrawn. After we talked he seemed to be reconnected and even wanted to try again. Are my expectations too high, or is this the best that I hope for and I just have to accept it?

Sandy