Searching: what a good post.
I too lose sight of what my partner is dealing with and how brave he is to come as far as he has. Because we dont talk about it all that often, I dont think that I've really had enough time (also my relationship is "relatively" new) to mentally process the full range of SA effects as much thought as perhaps I should. I still find myself wondering "can these few incidences REALLY have had such an impact a person's life???" Sometimes just I get so mired down in the difficult personality quirks and forget about the bigger picture.