I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and about 7 months ago he opened up to me and told me of the abuse he suffered when he was a child. At first I didnt know how to react to the news he seemed to act so casually about it even going so far as to crack jokes about it. But progressivly over the past 7 months he has I believe started to take it more seriously. He is now in therapy and it seems to be doing well for him I have seen great strides in his progress which I have made him very aware of how proud of him I am. He says he loves me but he is confused right now he is pushing me away and this is not the first time he has done this he pushes me away for a couple of weeks then he comes back and everything is ok. How long am I supposed to do nothing but love him and want to help him and be supportive of him? Should I keep my opinions to myself and just step back and let him do what he feels he needs to do to help him self even if it means breaking my heart and leaving me to feel as though I mean nothing to him? He knows I love him, I have given him the space he has needed in the past but I am not so sure I can put myself on this emotional trip again. Do my feelings count here? Do I let the inevidable happen and be heart broken for a couple of weeks and wait for him? Every time he has pushed me away I have been scared he will not come back, should I just let fate play out its course? I love him and I am scared of losing him. He means more to me than I think he actually realizes or maybe he does realize it but he is scared to admit it. He has said to me in the past he doesnt deserve to be loved as much as I love him. Is this a reaction to his past abuse? I am just scared of losing the man I love for what I see is really not a good reason. There has been no fighting no arguments nothing to warrent this as far as I can see. All I want to do is hold him and love him and try to help to protect him from the past that he hates so much. I know only he can help himself but isnt there anything I can do besides sit on the sideline and wait? I have told him that I will not allow him to push me away this time that I want to help, is this the wrong thing to say? Again I ask dont my feelings count? What do I do?