About two months ago I found out that my husband was sexually abused as a child. We have only been married for about a year, and I found out about it because he was spending a lot of time on the internet and I caught him one night and asked him what he was doing, he lied and said nothing and then it came out that he was looking at porn, and I also found out he has an e-mail address that he's been keeping from me. His sexual interest in me is almost none and there is very little affection either (hugging,kissing) he has gone to counseling three times but doesn't want to go back and I am about to go crazy. Nobody else knows that this has happened to hime and he has been carrying it around for 30 years. If there is anyone out there that can help me understand what he is going through and how our marriage can be saved I would greatly appreciate it.

Thanks