But I will take the side that shame can at times be positive.
agree but would add that the crime of CSA is not the shame but rather its misplacement. Shame in CSA is a good thing, but it belongs entirely on the abuser
. Owning my molester's shame was truly the most destructive element of my abuse.S
hame is what this is all about. If you watch the news, however, you'd think it was about sex. We as survivors know better. Let's see, of all those victims of Jerry Sandusky - the ones who had to be numbered
- how many came screaming out of that basement? Probably as many as came screaming out of the basement of the molester next door to us. Zero.S
hame. That invisible, magical force that helps us keep our abusers' secrets for a lifetime. Certainly a worthwhile topic here.