I'm going through something very similar. The ever persistent moodiness from my H is soul crushing at times. I've learned to give him space and let him "come back" to me, but I have to tell you, after three or four days, I find myself getting very angry with him and just want him to pull his shit together...

I know how difficult this is for him. We've come a long way in the last 2 years, still when does he get out of the "fault" stage? When will that reconciliation between the logical and emotional? Between what he knows is not his fault and the opposite emotional response? Like OTF used to, my H seeks constant external approval and not always in a healthy way. He has nearly destroyed our marriage over it...

Trying to be patient. Trying not to get angry. Trying to hold it together in my head. It just doesn't always work.