Sugar,

After I read your question above, I proceeded to browse through your post history. I was going to offer you my own amateur opinion as a Survivor and a Father for what it's worth, but reading just a few of your posts changed my mind.

Just be the person you are in your post - really strong, caring, kind, and optimistic, with a bit of self deprecation thrown in to remind others you are human. You know how to communicate - just be you and say what and why you are concerned.

Sincerely,
Matt
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It's okay to find the faith to saunter forward
With no fear of shadows spreading where you stand
And you'll breathe easier just knowing
that the worst is all behind you
And the waves that tossed the raft all night
have set you on dry land
- The Mountain Goats - "Never Quite Free"