Lovebug - if you have feelings that you don't feel safe expressing to him, then you have things you can focus on in the absence of him wanting to work on his issues. You can make them a couples issue. My husband did finally disclose with our marriage counselor. We were working on issues between us when that one finally came up. It could be a great opportunity for you.

What is the saying? Anger is a cover up emotion for fear or sadness. Add that to intimacy destroyers like suggesting an open relationship to your partner who is not interested in an open relationship...