I have only seen one other SO ask this question. I've read through hundreds of threads. Maybe there is not an answer.

Why/How did I become like an aunt/cousin as far as s/x is concerned when right prior to that, I was a sexy in-love lover??? What does this mean - how did this happen - does it ever go back?????

I knew that disclosure was going to have ramifications. I was fine with waiting until he felt more comfortable. I was fine with baby steps. I wasn't going to put any pressure on him. But this comment he makes seems irrepairable.