I dont want to intrude on Lucylives post, but since we are talking about sex, i would like to know if any of the men out there ever felt like they looked at wife/partner "differently" (actually like an aunt or cousin i was told) after they disclosed. Because that's what i was told and it ruined our sex life and our relationship.
Yes. Definitely. Before I remembered abuse from my childhood (and I started talking it over immediately with professional T) I was definitely much, much more functional in marriage. In all ways. Then it has been with great pain and effort that I have achieved a lot of resolution of the effects of the abuse. But I had a lot of internalized pain and depression and dysfunctional sexual issues before. I had to remember these issues and deal with them before they started to resolve. I'm still not through with this.