I have read past threads and see mention of porn addiction and triggers during marital sex. I want and need insight to my relationship because he is not opening up and I don't want to push him. I also see that other wives have the same kind of questions.
Since he disclosed, our sex life has dramatically changed. I understand about triggers and having warped views of sex, I get it. I have backed off a lot physically. I don't want him to feel like I am harassing him. He tells me he is not in the mood to have sex at all. Which is fine because I figure it has to do with the process of finally acknowledging the CSA since he recently disclosed.
However, I don't get why he still watches porn twice a week or more a week. Is it that the porn is a sexual act on the screen and sex with an actual physical person would generate intimacy, touch, sensations? But I don't get why my H would rather watch porn than be with me? What constitutes porn addiction? Why is porn bad (aside from the feminist viewpoint)?
Sorry to sound naive, but I really don't know.
What is it that turns your partner into a non-sexual being after the disclosure? Why does the CSA survivor partner become a mom, aunt, sister as I have read in other threads?
Please help me understand. I don't get it.
Edited by overwhelmed1975 (01/31/14 07:24 PM)