Addressing kink shame is important, especially for survivors... I think that fetishes, if they are expressed consensually with clear communication and 'above-ground', are not shameful at all... many people have underwear fetishes, foot fetish, clothing, handcuffs, bondage, etc etc etc... it's OK to have fantasies and desires... I have learned to feel good about myself and my own unique sexual expression... informed consent is key... then you keep yourself and whomever you are sexual with out of harms way...

for example nowadays i regularly tell people that i love seeing guys in down jackets and rain coats... it can be such a turn on for me... i don't have an issue with that anymore... i'm simply open about it, if anyone wants to know. and i'll tell a guy he looks gr8 in that jacket... no problem!