i think my mother was a good one - until she married husband #2. something in her died when my real father died (i was almost 3). i was almost 6 when she re-married. then i lost her completely - as far as emotional connection. and she just went through the motions. looked VERY good from the outside - overcompensation - but empty. i was never physically hungry or dirty or badly clothed or sheltered. we were affluent and had the status props. but i needed so much more. and all i got was the step-dad's cruelty.
We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9