Oftentimes I have defined myself as "straight"
I paused at "bi" for a while, and ended up "gay".
Our decisions about who we are define us. Only we are capable of so doing.
Today I know that even if my husband left me tomorrow, I would be gay. I love that peace. I wish each of you to have that same peace with who you are and how you conduct your relationships. It isn't supposed to be chains, or chafing, it is supposed to be freeing.
Many of us have found the partner we desire, we have the relationship we want, we just don't know how to describe who we are and how we feel.
gay, straight, bi, trans...makes no difference really. We are who we Are.