this isnt going to sound nice. but its true.
some things in life can be considered painful and unpleasant intiations.
It certainly is true that you know what the pain fo a woman is now. the T may have been tactless. but he/she was accurate.
woman and men have been getting raped for years. unfortunately. the world still doesnt want to deal with rape survivors that are men and there are not many resources on the subject so some well meaning therapists are translating the best they can. its not an excuse but its the truth.
i hate to say it, but she or he isnt being rude, just honest.
Once you hear the details of victory, it is hard to distinguish it from a defeat.