I am sorry you feel this way, it surely isn't true.
Often we as survivors tend not to show our best sides, we tend to be extremely picky and hyper alert for any violations of our trust, we tend to be rather attractive, but upon close inspection aloof and unapproachable. We tend to be see ourselves in a negative light lacking self confidence and showing our insecurity because we feel so very bad about being ourselves.
These things can make us an "impossible Catch" ...much like Narcissus, we are incredibly beautiful, and just as incredibly unattainable.
In my life they would always approach closely, and then the warmth I advertised would disappear in a torrent of distrust fear and shame. I was a large man with success professionally, but in a huge amount of denial about my issues. I craved acceptance from my homophobic family, insisted on controlling my lovers, laying down ultimatums so that I could be safe, and expected too much from them.
When I learned (and still continue to learn) how to accept others unconditionally, I became an acceptable partner.
I hope this can happen in your life...Good Luck!!