Hi Radray,

"Getting over it" is the wrong frame of mind - if anything, most people's experience with "getting over it" is just being demanded to do that by some clueless jerk who doesn't recognize his or her own good fortune and privilege.

What is possible is to DEAL with it. What is possible is to place it in proper context amidst the rest of your life, so that it is no longer immediately and constantly painful and you are capable of constructing a stable and happy life in spite of it. Many people have done just that and it is the hope of recovery.

"How much better does it get?" Well, it's different for everybody, but there are certainly cases where people went from being effectively non-functional, self-destructive, spiraling and s**c*d*l, to significantly calming down and being able to see the good in themselves and other people and the world again - and with that achieved, able to enjoy life and build a better future for themselves. It never goes away, but it doesn't have to go away for life to get better.

Depression and anxiety are "introductory" symptoms - so supercommon amongst survivors of sexual abuse and trauma in general that the professional community has a lot of experience in treating it. Get yourself a good therapist, get a consult with a psychiatrist and get put on the proper mix of meds to help manage your symptoms and allow yourself to begin mapping the rebuild.

There are resources listed on the main page that should help with finding care in your area. If you stick with this, you can benefit from it greatly.


Matt
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