Thank you, focused. I forget that I need to be kind to myself too.

We talked the other night, and he's ready. The biggest help has turned out not to have anything to do with the marriage: his boss at his new job completely respects him, and that's raising his true confidence so much! He hadn't said much about it, and I figure that silence about success is his inner shame telling him he's not worth it. But he is, and it's good to hear him say the compliments and responsibility feel good. Maybe hearing how solid he is from others lets him know I'm not crazy for thinking he's so awesome...