Hi Aries. Man, it sucks that you have so much trouble around females but at least you feel comfortable around your girlfriend so perhaps that is a start. I personally don't have much of a problem around females in general unless and until it seems like they might be interested in something more than a platonic relationship. That's when I run for the hills with my tail between my legs.
I wonder, what is it about your girlfriend that makes her feel safe where other females don't? How was it you were able to get close enough to her to become her significant other without your anxiety and the discomfort that females tend to generate in you getting in the way? If you can answer those questions, perhaps you can use those answers as a catalyst for further recovery. Perhaps that's off-base but it's just a thought. Take care. Peace,