"Until the philosophy which holds one race superior and another inferior is finally and permanently discredited and abandoned, everywhere is war." ~ Robert Marley
i know a lot of people don't like religion. neither did i.
this man Don Miguel Ruiz has some very valuable lessons, and a brilliant philosophy which has helped me through many dark periods. it is more than a way of thinking, it is an easy to remember formula that has literally saved my life on several occasions.
he teaches a very simple, memorable, four step method. there are no "rules" i "must" obey. there are only agreements i can voluntarily choose to accept on my own terms. commitments that i can try to live up to. if I give it my best effort, i might just achieve some validation, and experience improvement in the quality of life.
here is the summary. -------------------------------- the four agreements - don miguel ruiz's code for life
I agree to be impeccable with my word - Speak with integrity. Say only what i mean. Avoid using the word to speak against myself or to gossip about others. Use the power of my word in the direction of truth and love.
I agree to never take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of me. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When i am immune to the opinions and actions of others, i won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
I agree never to make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what i really want. Communicate with others as clearly as i can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, i can completely transform my life.
I agree to always do my best - My best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when i am healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do my best, and i will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. ----------------------------------------------
the beauty is, these are not commandments. they are commitments. it is all about freedom of choice. i know that i automatically rebel against any rule or restriction, because of power/control issues, but it was easy for me to "agree" with these obviously good ideas.
all of his books are just expansion of these four concepts. you will find more about him here...
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