Originally Posted By: Castle
Simply put.

To gain control over a situation we had no control over and was power based.

Hoping that by doing it, sometimes over and over again, we have the chance to change the outcome of the past abuse experience. .... which is not possible.

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Think this has a lot to do with it.

Definitely better when we get beyond this with behaviors (though changing the thought processes involved seems to be much more a challenge).