Yes - it most certainly is abuse

I can only guess that the reason it feels worse to you if the gender roles where reversed is because of "historical society" saying that young guys are "lucky" to have sex with an older female at such a young age

times are changing though - society is starting to wake up to the damage that is being done
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Who will cry for the little boy? - I will... - Antwone Fisher

Abuse happens in silence/isolation - Recovery happens only when that silence/isolation is broken...

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