Also, as we have been on this journey for awhile, let me tell you how hard it is to hear about my husband's pain and shame. I really really want to scream JUST SHUT UP! Not to be mean, but it is sooooooooooooooooooo hard to hear his stuff and his pain. I love him but it breaks my heart to hear this stuff some time. After all this time, it has just been in the last few months that he has been able to share this stuff and believe me you, IT IS PAINFUL to hear.