You don't sound confused to me. Sounds like you got it perfectly.
The idea that rape isn't about sex and only about control is an idea that arose from feminism at some point along the way. It's a warped simplification of the concept of rape that feminists, for some reason, felt benefitted their argument against sexual violence.
But we know better. We know that power and control, for our perps, heightened their sexual arousal, that the power and the sex were combined into one, present at the same time together. This idea that it's either sex or it's violence, one or the other, is bullshit. We all know that the violence only stopped when the perp had his orgasm.
Buffalo, stand strong on your position that it wasn't just about power. That you know they wanted you sexually too. It doesn't matter one way or the other really. Only that when someone tries to tell you something that you know isn't true, you have every right to say, 'no, that's not true.'
Edited by cant_remember (04/06/13 05:37 PM)
Recovery is possible. Hang in there, brothers.