Hey it is alright my friend, we are here to give support to each other with aim to move with our healing.
As the most of us have some own issues it is easy to get confused. I'm sorry if you felt scared; it wasn't my intention.
Have you been read that article?
It was very helpful for me to go trough it and learn more about mechanism that is set behind need that has driven us in past to do some things that were actually hurtful for us (like watching some type of porn for example). I think it is great tool in healing.