I agree but I am having trouble connecting and accepting the inner child,who only saw love from the abuser's perceptive. This child feels love and special to the abuse and the acts done by the abuser. My T has been working on this aspect of healing and slowly, very slowly, I am beginning to understand and I sometimes feel the inner child is beginning to see the abuse was not love. It is so complicated to have these conflicting emotions of despising the abuser and a part feeling special to the abuser.