(((hugs)))) You are so right. You do deserve RESPECT and Dignity. All the little blurbs about how you get respect when you give it don't always apply.
Especially when we we fail to respect ourselves. I have found that the better I treat myself, the better others are forced to treat me. I set boundaries on what I will and won't do, I assign myself to tasks like minding my own business and staying out of volunteer-ism. I carefully review my expectations of others treatment of me. I don't expect to be treated well, just fairly. I make sure I don't try to get a pat on the back, because I know that I will eventually be dancing like a little dog begging for food. Goodness and Honesty (like Charity) begin at home. I have to be good and honest to ME...and not expect others to respond as I do. Good Luck