When we got married in 1985, our priest (Anglican) was horrified when I refused to say the "obey" vow, he had never been asked to remove it before. I stood my ground and it was removed for the marriage service. My husband suppoerted me right through all the negotiations. My feeling was that any church or belief system that included it was not worth marrying us. I must say most weddings that I have attended lately do not include it.
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Rosemary

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