My family moved to live with my grand parents when I was 4. My grandfather was a perp. To her credit, my mother moved us out the day after she had that figured out. How did she figure it out? I was becoming like the boy Dibs, in the book: Dibs, In Search of Self.

http://www.amazon.com/Dibs-Search-Self-Virginia-Axline/dp/0345339258/

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