Thank you for you post, your story is very simular to my wife and I, but with a twist, It was I who my now wife found me close to death and wanting it. She was abused as a girl of nine. Had been in a program for years and been seeing a T for some five years. I on the other hand had delt with nothing, the usual blame of myself,rage, very deep depression. I have been in T for some three years plus. Also in a men's group. Several years ago we were married. She as well as I had many broken relationships. It is very differant now. Our respect and understanding of each other is very deep. Our love for each other is still growing. It takes a willingness and much work but a better way and life can happen. Best wishes in your continueing growth
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it is and has been quite a trip thru life, as last I feel that I am in a better place, it takes work and in my case a wife the was and is forgiveing and helpful. At last a relationship has gone right, messed up three.