I had a similar experience once in AA. A fellow set himself up as judge of my status and declared that I was not an alcoholic in a group meeting. I thought: Great...even the fucking alcoholics don't want me! But I talked with my sponsor about it and he told me no one is appointed to be the "AA police", so I let it go.
But what a bummer that the same guy is standing in your way. Consider going over his head? Or, there may be some other similar programs in your area that you could choose instead.
If you can't move a mountain, go around it.
Can't be bothered with sorrow
And I can't be bothered with hate, no, no
I'm using up the time but feeling fine every day
That's why I'm telling you
I just want to celebrate another day of livin'Rare Earth