I read your post and a reply started coming out and it became a poem. I am posting it over in the poetry section because it is kind of long and I don't want to hijack your thread, but I hope you read it because your post is the reason I wrote it.

http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=425765&#Post425765
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-- Alice Miller