So is the VM assigned because I'm taking too long?
To long to do what? Get back to 'normal'? If you had to give up drinking and drugs, deal with PTSD and deal with divorce then the 'back' wasn't 'normal'. It was just.......then.
Now is different. Now is free. Now is not what was then. Your not taking to long to do anything - your here in the now. They sound stuck in the 'then'.
I hope that makes as much sense when read as it just made in my head.
There is nothing wrong with changing direction in life.