"For folks who have experienced both, I would hope that they would discuss their CSA issues in CSA-geared folders, and their ASA issues in the ASA geared folder."
I still consider myself new at this site. Although the conversation has ended, I have read and re-read quickly through the pages each time I came in. Today, I slowed down and actually READ- not scanned. A great many statements caused me to pause and ponder what was actually being said. There seems to be no place for me.
Where shall I turn now ? To whom shall I reach out ? Neither the CSA nor the ASA was my fault, yet I have experienced BOTH. Shall I separate the two and pretend one did not happen so as not to offend someone who suffered the other? It would be easy I suppose, I pretend everyday I AM NOT a survivor of sexual assault and rape- you know, that it didn't happen.
Although I have been diligent with regards to posting and staying focused when in topical venues, I now consider the ONLY place I thought was safe to be not no so safe.
I know no harm was meant. But just like the society views of assault and rape the discussion began talking about, tolerance and understanding flew out the window.
Today, I have been slightly wounded again. But hey, I'm a big boy and I shall continue with my healing. I will not fall into the trap of hiding my CSA nor my ASA from other survivors because it doesn't fit the norm.
"...and in the distance, I saw that which had brought me here."