Much of what you shared here is familiar to me. The sudden onset of disturbing memories. The relationship difficulties. The trust issues.
You come to a safe place to work on these things, with men who will support you because we have been there. It will get easier to talk about it in time. No need to rush, but then again, there's been too much delay already. When you feel ready to jump in, then go with it. We've got your back.
"And God only knows
God makes his plan
The information's unavailable to the mortal man
We're workin' our jobs
Collect our pay
Believe were gliding down the highway
When if fact we're slip slidin' away"Paul Simon