Hello all,

I have been with my boyfriend for almost one year, and he disclosed to me 6 months ago that he was the victim of rape at age 14. We are very open and honest with each other and he told me that sometimes he watches and enjoys gay porn, but then feels ashamed about it. We have a very active, healthy sex life and I have no doubt that he is physically attracted to me... That being said, I am concerned that he may have some latent homosexuality, or is bi-curious. When I have asked, he says he would never have sex with a man.

I can not be in a relationship that is not monogomous, but I don't want him to resent me or be unhappy for not acting on any SSA if that is what he needs to do. I love him and want to support him. How can I talk to him about what he really wants and let him know its "okay" to leave me and be with a man if that is what he truly wants?