Hi Marc and Welcome to Male Survivor!
You made great introduction post by sharing your problems, intimate issues and weakness with us. It needs a lot of courage for doing so, you are very brave man!!!
Here is the article that helped me a lot to come to terms where is the source of my needs to escape my reality into world of porn in compulsive manner and that explains how to cope with destructive behavior: http://www.malesurvivor.org/ArchivedPages/singer2.html
I found a lot of support and help here; I hope you it will be the same for you
Keep sharing with us!