It was a real struggle for me in terms of trying to have friendships with males and a big part of this was not knowing how to be a friend and not knowing how to develop true intimacy in relationships by always keeping it at such a superficial level. After making progress in men's work (lots of group work over many years, I now know how to develop intimacy and have appropriate boundaries in my friendships wiht men as well. I ahve several close friends, some are gay, some are bi, and some are straight.