That's a lot of pressure you're putting on the first encounter between you and a potential therapist. I understand about all the things one should get from a therapeutic relationship. And hopefully those things come about. Those things take time to develop in a therapeutic relationship. My advice would be to take it slow and get a feel for the chemistry between you and her. If it feels good, then go from there. Too much pressure and desperation might make you open up too fast and then feel like you're overexposed or may make you feel shame about telling too much too soon, if the pressure you're under brings it to that. I wish you the best with this therapist. May you get what you need from the relationship.
I see recovery as a lifelong journey rather than a final destination, a journy, though, which can have many successes along the way.
WoR Alumnus - Hope Springs, OH, October 2009
My avatar is the farmhouse at the Hope Spring, OH WoR. It's a nice place.