The simple fact is that whatever our differences are in orientation, lifestyle, religion, or route for recovery, we share one common bond: We were all sexually abused as boys. We were all damaged by that abuse in so many ways that complete recovery seems like an impossible dream.
But because of our common bond, no one else "gets it" like we do. No one else understands our pain like we do. No one else can see how difficult it is to "just get past it", like we do. No one else knows what its like to be a trusting innocent boy and be turned into someone's sex-toy and then thrown away like trash, like we do.
This is what we are here for. To show each other that some one else gets it, understands it, feels it. To be validated in our experiences and feelings. That we're not alone and crazy. That no matter what reactions we get from others in this world, that there is a place we can go and be understood, and not judged. Don't let yourselves forget how rare and valuable that is.
And don't let yourselves forget that everyone here is a real flesh-and-blood man, not just words on a screen. All of us are easily hurt by careless words, and so what we say to one another matters.
Edited by Jude (01/29/13 08:36 PM)
Edit Reason: Omitted nasty word
"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "Joni Mitchell