Candu nailed it Soccerstar. She doesn't understand the part about you still being a child regarding the CSA.
I didn't understand that initially either that is why that part stuck out for me.
I remember my husband saying "You can't tell. You can't tell!" The night he disclosed to me and I was saying "What the f*ck are you talking about!!?? I'm 35 years old, I'll talk about whatever the f*ck I want!!" .....we were NOT on the same page.
You have to work on it to become an adult dealing with it. I didn't understand that back then either.