Perhaps you could give the guy the opportunity to respond to your concerns, then decide based on his answers. Bottom line though is put yourself first. This isn't about HIM, its about YOU. No T should put his needs above yours.

"When I was a child
I caught a fleeting glimpse
Out of the corner of my eye
I turned to look but it was gone
I cannot put my finger on it now
The child is grown, the dream is gone
And I have become comfortably numb."
Pink Floyd