I really appreciate it.
We had a talk and so i wouldn't go all off tangenty, I wrote down what i needed to say. He was frustrated with some things I had done and rather than deflecting, I owed it and apologized. He in turn had given me an ultimatum about something saying but don't take this as an ultimatum. I asked how else would i be able to take it and was there any other word for it. He looked at me and said "I am sorry baby, an ultimatum has no place in a relationship". Who knew making up could be so , well so damn good.
He couldn't know I didn't tollerated him raising his voice if I didnt tell him in a time when things were calm, that that model of conflict resolution does anything but work for me.
And when I told him about wanting to go to leather events, he had me turn the other way then appeared in a biker pants, a harness and cap. OMG, best ever.
So we will be going to events together.
My corner of the world keeps getting better with each move towards authenticity. Fuck the fear.
The need for love lies at the very foundation of human existence. Dalai Lama
WoR Barrie 2011