I have become comfortable telling people, "I was raped as a boy" or "...as a kid." For some reason, "kid" is a less triggering word for me than "boy."
It's simple to say and cuts through all the euphemism bullshit like "molested" or even "abused." No, I was raped.
Matt, I can understand your ambiguity over oral rape, but remember that I don't remember the rape at all, only that I know it happened.
It's a terrible word, but there's solace in it, too. I find strength in being able to claim it and say it, "I was raped when I was a kid."
It's made me who I am.
"There is a Catskill eagle in some souls that can alike dive down into the blackest gorges, and soar out of them again and become invisible in the sunny spaces... even in his lowest swoop the mountain eagle is still higher than other birds upon the plain, even though they soar." -- from Moby-Dick