Jaybro,

I am an emotional guy at times, I am also gay. I have lots and lots of straight friends because most of the rest of males are mostly straight men.
I have straight guy friends that we say we miss each other, tell each other to be careful, and actually backslap/hug when we see each other. I love them. They love me. We don't always say it, but we do mean it. I have a couple of former friends that try to act like, "NO HOMO" while they are patting my back, but I try to keep it real. I say exactly what I mean, and if a dude isn't comfortable, then maybe we don't need to be friends. Usually they only talk to me about stuff like that when they are ashamed of being seen with me, or ashamed of being thought to be gay. I don't do anything with Homophobia today. if you can't handle me like I am without trying to fix me, then maybe we aren't really friends. I accept it when they don't respond the way I want them to, but I draw the line at them trying to manage my behavior or say that it is because I happen to be gay--FREE WILL FOR ALL!!!