I'm partly there with you Eric... But DH isn't all wrong in my books. I'm straight. The fact that I was abused by a male sickens me to no end. Remembering his dick inside me or the way it tasted makes me want to vomit. I too went thru a stage where I longed for the abuse to have been committed by a woman. I know now that that thought was incorrect... No matter what, there would have been pain & suffering. Where there's abuse, pain follows. I don't think that thoughts like that make me homophobic... I just know that I'm not gay, so being raped by a man is horrifying to me... But equally horrifying may be rape by a woman. Maybe DH is homophobic, but maybe not. We've all been thru hell & the road back is long & confusing at times. I do, definitely respect your opinions, Eric.
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The Bluebird of Happiness long absent from his life, Ned is visited by the Chicken of Depression. - Gary Larson