As the title says, I'm both a survivor and a supporter. Got the whole package, so to speak. It makes our marriage easier and harder at the same time. Easier, because some things that cannot be explained don't need to be explained. Harder, because two damaged people don't make a whole. There are things that I don't know whether we will ever be able to fix. First and foremost, anything to do with intimacy and sexuality. It just seems broken beyond repair most days. In other parts of our lives, we seem to be on a good track. We told each other about the CSA within the first three months of meeting and falling in love. For both of us, it's the first time that we were honest with a partner and honesty has worked out for us. We've been married for quite a few years now.

I have recently come back to these forums more often, after having lurked around for a while a few years back, because both hubby and I have started trauma therapy last year and will be entering the EMDR phase this year. It has brought a lot of issues back to the front of my mind. What I like about these forums is that it seems to me that everyone is working hard to get better, so that gives me motivation and good examples. I think I also know myself well enough these days to know when I have to stop reading and get away from the subject for a while. Anyway, I'm looking forward to getting to know you all!